These are words by Joseph Epstein and I think all will agree Jill chose to live her life courageously, kindly loyally, fearlessly and filled with laughter. What a great life my fantastic much loved sister lived. "We do not choose to be born. We do not, most of us, choose to die, nor do we choose the time or conditions of our death. But within all this realm of choicelessness we do choose how we shall live, courageously or in cowardice, honourably or dishonourably with purpose or adrift. We decide what is important and what is trivial in life. We decide what makes us significant is what we do or what we refuse to do. We decide. We choose. And so are our lives formed"